Spending Quality time with kids

“Hey Kashish, how are you?”
“I am doing well. How are you, dear?”
“I am doing great. So, tell me how is work?”
“All is good. Kashish, I saw Viaan the other day and he looks sohealthy, so happy all the time. What is the secret? I am so worried about Rihana. She is Viaan’s age but always screaming, throwing tantrums,constantly having one or the other ailment.”

“Akshata, take a chill pill, dear. You are a great mother. I have seen you juggling between Rihana, Akshat and work so well. It may be just a phase, dear.”
“No Kashish, as I said Viaan is Rihana’s age.”
“That’s not a measuring norm. All kids are different, and behave differently, even if they are in same age groups. You shouldn’t compare. However, may I still ask you a question?”
“Yes, of course. Please go ahead.”
“How much time are you spending with Rihana? I know you have a very hectic schedule.”
“Not much, dear. I come home, very tired. Then, I have to make dinner. I feel like going off to sleep without eating anything.”
“I can totally understand. But, you know what, spending quality time with Rihana would be the best way, to witness change in her.”
“Why? Is it so important?”
“See, what is exactly Quality time? Time that you spend giving your full attention to your kiddo, without having to deal with other things at the same time. Right? So, when you do this, it affects your kid very positively.”
“So, you’re saying, if I spend more time with her, her tantrums and irate behavior will reduce? Really?”
“I really believe so. When a kid throws tantrums, it is really just an appeal to get your attention. They feel they are not getting enough of you, and as they want you to focus only on them, they will try all sorts of antics to make you do that. You need to understand this, and spend more time with your kid. Let me tell you, in how many ways does a parent-child quality time affect the child.”

1. Improves their Self-esteem and Self-worth – When you spend more time with your kid, it will make him/her feel that he/she is also an important part of your life, thereby increasingtheirself-esteem.

2. Understanding your kid’s strengths and areas of improvement – The more quality time you spend, the more you understand their strengths and weaknesses. Accordingly,appreciatingthem for their talents and working on their areas of improvement will help them develop as a confident adult.

3. Developing the bond – When you spend valuable time with your kid, you both develop a bond that your kid will treasure all his life. In times of difficult situations, failure, pleasures, success, it is you, whom he/she will want to share everything first, and seek advice.

4. Parents’ love has no replacement – There is no other person who can replace the love that you yourself can give to your child. No one else will love your child as unconditionally as you can. When you spend more time with your child, this love is reciprocated, as the child feels it. A child who knows he/she is loved is a happy child, and will have lesser events of irate behavior.

5. Good Manners and Habits – As your bond develops, the possibility of your kid listening to your commands and acting on them increases. They will obey you as they know you love them, and they no longer need to resort to tantrums to get attention.